there is nothing wrong with distractions

there is nothing wrong with enjoying this time in our marriage

there is no guilt in enjoying things we can enjoy as DINKs (dual income no kids)

i pray we laugh much

i pray we enjoy our dates

i pray we grow closer together and build a marriage

i pray we do not miss this precious time because we are so fixed on our future


this situation has the potential to drag us down, but let’s not miss the blessings that come with extended time together.  our life is not defined by infertility.  our marriage is not defined by the inability to have children.  it is defined by the work God wants to do IN us and THROUGH us.  let’s change the subject whenever we can.  here are a few ways we enjoy the here and now:

1. see the world, especially places that are not stroller friendly

2. go out on nice dates.  you can afford them much easier without having to pay a babysitter

3. do projects together.  build the team while it is still a team of two

4. enjoy some adult beverages, while you still can

5. volunteer together.  pick a ministry and let God use the two of you.

6. get on the same page with your budget.  my wife and i have used this time to adopt the Dave Ramsey program to help set us up for her to someday be a housewife.

7. travel even more.  we can’t get enough

8. spend time experiencing the joy and peace of God.  i know it can be hard to dwell in, but it can really strengthen you for the long haul.

Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. (James 4:14)

i pray that we can all find ways to pause and enjoy the moment this week.  focus on who we are in Christ and blessings on other areas of our lives.

take off your scarlet letter and CHOOSE to be defined by bigger things

– “abram” –

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