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My guess is that most of you reading this blog have a thorough understanding of the infamous “2 week wait”. But just in case you’re popping over here and aren’t/haven’t experienced infertility let me explain. In a typical woman’s cycle, she’ll ovulate around day 13-15 and then get her period 2 weeks later. For those of us trying to get pregnant, this 2 week window can be unbearable. It’s the period of time where you could be pregnant but you just don’t know. You’ve done everything you can do to get pregnant and now you just have to wait it out. I find myself over-analyzing every ache, cramp, emotion, sensitivity and wondering if they’re signs that I’m pregnant. By the end of the 2 weeks my mind is screaming that I’m probably not pregnant so I don’t get my hopes up but all the way to the deepest core of me I’m hoping that I am.
My 2 week wait ends tomorrow. Will this be my last ever 2 week wait? Or, will I be faced with the all-too-familiar negative test result phone call?
I don’t know how to prepare myself? Plan for the worst and hope for the best? What’s your advice?
I’m sure at least of few of you are veterans of the 2 week wait. What’s your advice for those of us that are going through it right now? Please share your best advice and hopefully we’ll get some good ideas listed for the next time we’re faced with the dreaded 2 week wait.
-Sarah
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I’m just now stalking out your blog and love your writing and heartfelt honesty and openness. You ARE helping others, trust me. I wish I could have read your blog 25 years ago ( I know…you probably weren’t born then. HA) when we were going through our wait.
My advice for the 2 week wait…It’s a difficult time. I wasted so many precious days of my life on my ‘baby chase’ – counting days, hoping, planning, trying to keep myself from the grips of my evil depression…So, my advice is Carpe Diem. Life is what it’s supposed to be for all of us. God knows what we need and when we need it. Our child came to us when we had given up all hope, and not what I thought was the correct time frame. But now that my child is 18, I’m looking back more, and I see that it’s all been perfect.
You will have a child. Hold on to that and go out and enjoy the day each day.
Best wishes to you!
Libby
P.S. Keep writing…that always helps!
I am so sorry. I know my message a bit late but still. You give so many so much inspiration, you are amazing and I will pray for you xxx
Your blog is so inspiring. I find it so difficult every month when those two weeks are happening. I end up feeling really stupid and naive because one second I’m convincing myself I won’t be pregnant, then I’m hoping I am. Why can’t I just wait? How can I spend two weeks repeating “I won’t be” and then still be distraught when I’m not? It’s nice to know I’m not alone and that others are far able to describe it far better than I!
My TWW ended with a negative too. 😦 Thanks to all for the prayers after our IUI. Praying for us all to have our dreams of children fulfilled.
I’m so sorry it was negative. No matter how much I try to prepare myself for the worst, it’s still so disappointing. I’m praying for you and your hubby. -s
I am so sorry your wait did not end on a positive note. Stay strong!
I pray that this is your month. I know all too well how excruciating the 2WW can be and how hard it can be to get the dreaded BFN. It always hits me harder than I think it will. Whenever I’ve gotten the BFN, I’ve always tried to embrace the time I have without being pregnant. I do inversions in yoga, I drink a few glasses of wine, I eat sushi and chocolate…all that stuff I would happily give up for a pregnancy. After one failed IUI, I splurged on a Coach handbag (I never do that…my idea of an expensive handbag is usually a NIne West from a discount store).
My next 2WW will begin January 1st with my 4th IUI, and first one since the loss. I am feeling confident, but don’t want to set myself up for disappointment if it’s not “the one”. I wish you all the best.
My wife introduced me to your blog today. What an inspiration, a gift really. Thanks to people like yourself who have opened up your whole life, I’ve recently decided to do the same thing from the perspective of a daddy who went through infertility along with my wife. Thank you so much and I can only hope that someday my stories inspire someone to do the same. .
I saw the pregnancy test picture and thought it was yours for a moment, and I was super excited for you!! My prayers are this is what you’ll see soon!
Thanks for hoping for us! That’s not what we ended up seeing… Hopefully next month.
How I am blessed by your post! After checking things out this morning and finding out that my TWW is over with nothing to show for it is painful. All the daily medicines, watching everything I eat and do, and focusing on every way that my body could be different is over. Only to be repeated again. I think it’s ok to vent and be upset, but we’ve gotta put our feet back on the ground, realize that God has perfect timing and move on. Easier said! Praying for you in this TWW and God’s perfect timing!
Sorry your 2 week wait ended sad too. 😦 your advice is good: “sorrow may last for a night, but joy comes in the morning.”
Praying for you.
He who sows in tears will reap in joy. He who travels on his path weeping, carrying his seed will surely return in joy carrying his wheat. Psalms 126: 5,6
My TWW will probably end January 1st! There are actually a few of us who should be testing tomorrow or the next day…Praying for good news for all of us!
Normally, during the TWW, I do a pretty good job of just distracting myself, keeping busy with work and keeping the house clean, but this TWW fell over Christmas break, when I’m off of work for the entire two weeks! Distracting myself has been almost impossible with nothing to do! I usually like to watch movies when I’m home alone, but of course, all the movies that are on involve pregnancy somehow.
Whatever happens, I’ll be praying for peace for you.
I’m praying for your last few days of the TWW and hoping they’re your last!
Believing with you guys for a bundle of joy to start being created in the altar of your womb by the Grand Creator of the universe! Your Isaac is coming! Be of good cheer… In Jesus!
Have a marvellous 2012 that reflects the Lord’s glory in your lives and through your lives!
I always hear, “just don’t think about it!” I’m sure you know that’s pretty much impossible. It’s all you can think about. The best advice I can give is keep busy. I find going out to a movie, going out for dinner, reading, playing a game with my wife or just hanging out keeps me distracted. As soon as I’m by myself all bets are off though because it’s the only thing on my mind. Fingers crossed for you. Hope this is your last two week wait!
Fingers crossed. I think the prepare for the worst hope for the best is the only way.
My last one I had a complete hysterical melt down the last night that it hadn’t worked, I was right but even at that point I presumed I would be wrong & it would be a funny story to tell when announcing my pregnancy to people!! Completely mad I know I blame the drugs lol!
Fingers crossed x
I will most certainly keep you in my prayers and I really hope that you will be blessed with A baby
Thanks so much for those prayers. We appreciate them!